Back in January, I was contacted by Elizabeth Pantley about a give-away that she was holding in regards to her newest book the no-cry nap solution. I posted about the give-away on my blog, part of the give-away rules was to post about the book on your blog and then send her the link to the post. In my e-mail to her I told her that I would not recommend the book to you, my readers, since I had not read it, but I did mention the book and the give-away in my post. I told her that I would be willing to review one of her books on my blog if she wanted me.
After a few e-mails back and forth, and a bit of time due to the craziness of my life, I received the book the no-cry potty training solution by Elizabeth Pantley (published by McGraw-Hill) in the mail. At the time, I was thinking about jumping into potty training with both feet. I figured hey lets give this a try... how hard can it be! HA!
The book starts with an overview in the first chapter, including a quick quiz to see if your child is ready to begin potty learning. There is a longer quiz in chapter 2. I figured ok let me read the overview and see what I think. I sat down and read 121 pages that first night. As you can assume from that this book is an easy read! It is very well written in my opinion. It also seems to be based on a combination of research and common sense. When I read it, it confirmed a lot of things I had already thought and made me step back and think again about some conceptions I have/had about potty learning.
I went through the book while I was reading it with a pen (yes I felt like I was back in college for a bit). Here are some of the points that I felt were worth noting:
You can begin toilet training a child at any age: you can even sit a newborn baby on the potty. However, the more important question is when will training be finished? (pg. 6)
The amount of time it takes for your child to master toilet training is closely related to the span between the age when you start training and the age that he is physically and emotionally able to take responsibility. (pg 6-7)
**A parent's readiness to train is just as important as a child's readiness to learn. (pg. 23)
**The two magic factors that will set the pace for potty training are your
(the parent's) attitude and your patience (pg. 51)
When your child uses the toilet all day, every day, with only rare mistakes, you can consider your toilet training job complete, even if your child still wears a diaper to sleep. Potty training is about daytime toilet habits. Nighttime dryness is a totally separate subject. (pg. 97)
The first step to solve any problem is to take a deep breath and repeat after me: "My child will learn how to use the toilet. They all do. This too shall pass." (pg 105)
(Talking about setbacks) Tuck away your own injured pride, because this has nothing to with your job as a teacher nor does it mean your child has failed Potty Training 101. It just means your child is normal. (pg 120-121)
Pantley, Elizabeth the no-cry potty training solution Gentle Ways to Help Your Child Say Good-Bye to Diapers New York, McGraw-Hill Company, 2007
This book does not give you a quick answer for how to potty train your child. Actually it pretty much tells you there is no quick answer. There are chapters on pre-potty training, potty time set up, potty training ideas, bed wetting, common training problems and questions and answers.
I plan on utilizing some of the suggestions when I decide that Blake and I are ready to start this process. I have started some of the pre-training things with him and looking at our set up. As, we proceed through this process I will continue to let you know what I've utilized from this book and how it worked for us.