one of those days

This weekend we had family up to celebrate Colby's Baptism. This always throws Blake for a loop. When it is just the four of us here he knows the exceptions and how each person will react given a certain situation. We have a flexible yet structured routine to the day and life goes on. Blake thrives on this and seems to need the boundaries especially now that he's 2 and tries to find his own way to do things.

I have never been... and never will be a helicopter parent... you know the kind that hovers over the children and tries to prevent every accident by not letting the child live. I let my boys make mistakes. I let them fall and teach them it's ok... get up, brush yourself off and go on. I want them to develop a strong understanding of independence.

I also encourage them to play together with and without my intervention. Now, this is hard at this stage since Colby is well 7 month old and not moblie, but they do play together. Blake loves to share with Colby and often wants Colby to do the same thing that he is doing. Blake has developed an understanding that he has to share his toys and the attention with his brother... and for the most part has no issue with it.

When we have company over... Blake often gets a LOT more attention, some would say undivided attention. There are some who also hover over him and fuss at him more than we typically do. Then when the company leaves, things are tough because getting back into the swing of normal is hard.

Blake has to share my attention with Colby after having extra people doating over him for a few days. Blake has to hear "no", "stop", "please don't do that", "make good choices" and all those other things that seem to go out the window when others are in the house. Blake has to go back to sharing his toys and space with his brother.

This my friends is very hard on a 2 year old! Today has been one of those days where I've battled with Blake over these issues... well it started on Sunday actually. On Sunday, both Richard and I put Blake into time-out multiple times over not listening to directions. Yesterday, I had to threaten time-out more than once and we had many talks about being a good brother and sharing.

Today he lost it... BIG TIME. The funny thing is he lost it during his mommy alone time (each boy has some mommy alone time everyday). Today Blake wanted to watch tv or use the computer all morning. Yeah ... NO! I gave him options of the play room, the living room or out on the porch... nope he wanted none of this. Then he wanted his pacifer... nope not until nap time. So he melted down. I ended up putting him in his room so I could have a break and pull myself together. Now he is fighting taking a nap... yeah no way buddy.

I can only hope that tomorrow is a better day!
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15 comments:

  1. sounds about like the day ive been having with Avery...must be the age! plus i think he is teething nothing can go his way today and if someone looks at him wrong well WATCH out! oh the drama...

    hopefully tomorrow will be better!

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  2. I hope your day improves. Any type of break in routine is hard on Eliza. My mom does not seem to understand this and thinks E should adapt more easily. I am sure Blake will be back in thr swing of things just in time - when you think you can't take it anymore!

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  3. I'm so sorry things are rough right now. It is never fun when life gets crazy and out of routine. I think you handled it all well and you are a great mommy to your boys. The best mommy for them!

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  4. Well I'm sorry to hear that! I hope things will get better!

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  5. no he does not! but I love doing laundry/folding/sorting etc... I find it so relaxing!

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  6. You WILL have a better day and I WILL have a better week!! :o)

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  7. Ha! I have been there and done that. Not so much fun but the good thing is that they get more adaptable to those changes as they get older.

    Hang in there! And power to the nap!

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  8. I hope things are better tomorrow. I know you need them to be, as soon as possible. :)

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  9. yes, many days my friend. the joys of mothering. But so worth it...It will be a better day.

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  10. Yea are we sure it's the visitors? Lyndsy has been a disaster the same ways that you are mentioning but we haven't had visitors, etc. Maybe it's just going around. Is there such a thing as a grouchy virus?

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  11. You handled it great Lori! Sonia is like that sometimes. I would not have expected anything different from your reaction.

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  12. It's incredibly stressful when others try to reach in and parent your children in their own way. Drives me insane...messes up our schedule and the way we do things that our children know and actually thrive in. Hope tomorrow is a better day :)

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  13. Yep...I definitely understand how hard it is to get "back to normal" for kids after a few days of extra attention and possibly being a bit spoiled. :)

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  14. Yep...I definitely understand how hard it is to get "back to normal" for kids after a few days of extra attention and possibly being a bit spoiled. :)

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  15. This is exaclty how my 2 year old acts every time we visit family or have family visit us. It's so hard to get back into the routine of regular life- it takes days! Hope things are going better.

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