One thing that really bugs me as a mother is the nerve people have! What gives people the right to question your child's abilities, personality, or any other aspect of your child and his/her development?
People often stop me when I'm out and about with the boys. Typically they ask how old they are and then I usually hear... wow you've got your hands full. Another thing I often hear are... oh they are just too cute (or something on that aspect). Yes, they are cute, but there is so much more to them than being cute.
The things that really bug me are when they ask Blake how old he is and I usually answer for him. He will occasionally say hi or something else to them, but they aren't going to understand 90% of what he says anyway. But, what gives them the right to say in front of me... doesn't he talk yet? Or people will say... he'll talk soon. Or, I bet only mommy understands you. First of all... none of these things need to be said in front of Blake. He does talk, but is very hard to understand. It has nothing to do with intellect, it has to do with developmental level of speech and speech only. He can understand anything you say to him! Blake doesn't talk to many people besides Richard and I... and my feeling is he knows they won't even try to understand him so why should he try. Blake is a smart cookie and very aware of others and their feelings. I don't want him to pick up on the fact that people expect him to talk in a way that should be understood by a stranger and know that he can't just yet.
I hate that people who know us casually and those people we've never met before have the audacity to say something so bold in front of him. I never know what to say in response. I often say he only talks when he wants to, or with people he knows. Sometimes I just ignore the fact that they said anything and go on.
At home, we praise Blake for using his words and encourage him to use them whenever we get the chance. I know he knows what he wants to say, but gets frustrated when we don't understand him. I know he thinks its easier to show us than tell us. I also know it will get better. I know he has the ability to comprehend what he's trying to express... now we just have to work on saying it clearly.
I just wish people would think before they speak!