I have started to do time-out with Blake in the last few days. He is getting too smart for his age and is having a hard time understanding that actions have consequences, so I've decided it is time to try time-out with him.
On one hand Blake laughs when he gets in trouble. (yes this is VERY frustrating) On the other he is a very sensitive little guy who wants to be praised and please the people he loves.
This is the challenge. I have had to give him time-out now twice. The first time he was climbing the stove to open the spice drawer (what can I say my little guy loves spice in his life!). Richard and I had both spoken to him over and over that day, and in a 10 min span we'd both taken him off the stove more than once... ok enough is enough. Into time-out you go! So I picked him up and put him into one of our chairs and told him that he didn't make a good choice by climbing and now he had to sit for 1 min. Well after putting him back on the chair what felt like 20 times (ok it was more like 5, but still) he began to scream and cry because he began to realize, hey I think I don't like this! Well he finally stayed in the chair for his 1 min. Then he gave Richard and I hugs and said sorry. Later we talked about climbing and how that isn't safe. We also talked about how Mommy and Daddy love him, but were not happy with his choice.
The next few days he did really well with just a warning.
Today, I decided to let him go for a swim in his pool. As I was getting him out he bit me on the shoulder... OUCH! Time-out for you. The struggle didn't take as long, but the crying started earlier and lasted longer.
And to top it off... Colby was crying at the same time. Great! Well I got Blake changed into dry clothes, talked to him and carried him out to the living room to settle down for some tv time before his nap. I then got Colby settled down too.
But, for the whole 1/2 hour of Blake's show he was crying on and off.
As a teacher and as a mother, I know I am doing the right thing by setting these boundries. But, it kills me to hear him cry and know he is upset because he made the wrong choice.... which is the purpose of time-outs in the first place... got to love a catch 22!