Wow, that wasn't the direction I meant this post to go, but ok... no problem, back on track.
Ok so I was making Blake invitations today and sat there and debated... to RSVP or not. I get so frustrated with the whole thing. Can someone please tell me when this became an option? I thought it was common courtesy to actually RSVP when it was on an invitation. This frustration isn't just based on the boys birthday parties, I dealt with it at my wedding, bridal and baby showers and other parties we have had. Come on isn't it just common courtesy to know that the person holding the party needs to know how many people are coming? I like to plan my menu, favors and such based on the number of people attending, but when people do not RSVP do you assume they are coming or that they are not coming?
So, when I made Blake invitation this time, I decided to just leave off the RSVP. I decided that I would just assume that everyone is coming and go from there. I can't keep checking my e-mail/voice mail and bugging Richard every day to see if anyone has responded. I'd rather leave it for that day and find out they aren't attending. Or maybe people will at least tell us if they are not coming even though we didn't ask for an RSVP?
I don't know. I can tell you that when I see RSVP on an invitation I do provide the common decency to reply and let them know if we are or are not attending the event.
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Today's goals:
-- bring Blake to and from school... remember to drop off tuition check [check]
-- go to the Y with Colby... remember knee brace since I hurt it again today [check. and my knee is better today]
-- bring Yoplait pink labels to Y [check turned in 24 of them]
-- clean kitchen [ummm totally forgot about this... oops!, well there is still time]
-- art project with Colby [we did some water color painting on the porch, and he made a pretty cool picture]
Tomorrow's goals:
-- visit my mom
-- mop kitchen floor
Week's big goals:
-- create Blake's birthday invitation [done]
-- work on at least 1 of the Halloween costumes
-- drink 80 oz of water a day
-- get outside to play each day
-- at least 1 fall art project with the boys [made our monsters]
On my kids invites I put RSVP regrets only. That way I can assume if they don't then they are coming. I used to be really good about the whole RSVP thing, but I have really been slacking in that area.
ReplyDeleteOH, I feel your pain! I had a playdate at my house this summer and had some friends not RSVP until the day before. I sent the Evite out 4 weeks in advance. It annoys me when people don't RSVP. It is common courtesy. I like to plan like you do and how can I do that if I don't know who's coming???
ReplyDeleteDon't get me started on the RSVP thing. i think it is common courtesy too. Since inviting school friends I have had so many people just not call. You know what else bugs me is that people don't send written thank you's anymore. I hate that. I make my kids send them within a week of the party. It is also common courtesy.
ReplyDeleteGood luck with your lists today. I need to make one for myself I have so much to do.
I thought RSVP'ing was common courtesy too especially if you asked however, when I was part of a splurge group a couple of girls NEVER would let the host know if they were coming or not and got really peed off when I told them to please do so. They went on and on about how they don't need to know who is coming when they host. I was appalled. Needless to say I am no longer part of that group!
ReplyDeleteOh! The RSVP-thing makes me crazy. Seriously...are there people out there not knowing what it means???
ReplyDeleteAnd, I'm with Mimi on the thank you notes/cards. Is it really that difficult?
I know it will be a great party, tho. XO!
it drives me crazy too...i tend to right regrets only...sometimes it makes it work better. i don't get it either, we all KNOW what it means but no one does it!
ReplyDeleteYou would think RSVP'ing would be automatic! Sadly, it's not. Even if I put RSVP on the invite, I would still plan for everyone to attend!
ReplyDeleteI completely agree, it drives me nuts! I did the same thing with Avery's birthday party, no RSVP. It's such a hassle to have to check all the time and you still don't have an accurate count. Luckily it all worked out for us and we didn't have too many leftovers!
ReplyDeletei am glad to see that i am not the only one who has the prob (and has an issue with it)! i never thought of putting RSVP regrets though. maybe that will help.
ReplyDeletei think with all the forms of communication we have nowadays, it is just rude that you have no response whatsoever from people.